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In brief: Navigating challenges with opposing counsel can be a big source of stress, and it's crucial to approach conflicts with a strategic mindset. Approaching conflicts with a proactive and problem-solving mindset will not only enhance your professional reputation but also contribute to a more constructive legal environment for all parties; a good relationship between lawyers will result in a better outcome for your client.
First and foremost, try to separate the person from the issue by recognizing that disagreements are often rooted in differing professional perspectives rather than personal animosity.
Consider picking up the phone for a direct conversation rather than relying solely on email communication. This personal touch can foster a more open and constructive dialogue, allowing for a clearer understanding of each other's positions. Verbal communication often provides nuances that written correspondence might miss, helping to humanize the interaction.
When addressing the issue, focus on working the problem rather than assigning blame. Clearly articulate your concerns and seek to understand the opposing counsel's perspective. Emphasize finding common ground and explore potential solutions collaboratively. Using phrases like “help me understand” can help you achieve this goal.
In the mean time, check out the resources below for help working through your issue.
As always, don’t hesitate to call a Practice Advisor. They have experience navigating challenging relationships, and they can provide a listening ear - no issue is silly or too small! Follow the link below to schedule an appointment.
Call a Bencher.. Benchers have a wealth of practical knowledge and connections within the legal community and may be able to help you talk through a problem or offer suggestions for how to proceed.
Follow this link to reach out to a Bencher.
Talk to a mentor or trusted colleague. Your colleagues and legal community can be one of your greatest assets and supports. If you have a trusted colleague in your field, chances are they will have been through a similar experience and will be able to empathize or suggest next steps.
Remember, maintaining a professional and respectful demeanor is paramount. Even in the face of disagreements, you should strive to uphold the standards of the legal profession, even if you feel that opposing counsel has failed to do the same.
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